Feel Better, First!

“You want things, because you believe the having of it will make you feel better. Feel better first! Then it will come to you! ~Mary Ann Pack

We all want things! Good things. No, great things!

This is natural and it is an eternal facet of our lives–of who we are. Do you realize you were created to have desires? Making preferences of what we want is one of the main reasons we came into this time-space reality from the non-physical realm.

The wanting and desiring of things actually expands all of creation! Being on the leading edge of thought allows us so many opportunities to see things in the world and then choose our preferences.

The contrast and variety of life offers us endless possibilities of desires!

This choosing process is what expands, not only our lives, it expands All-That-Is! Since we are eternal beings, we can’t help but expanding. Change is inevitable. Choices are required. But, it should never be a burden to make our choices. We should be approaching our preferences with joy!

When we see things in this world that we don’t like, we immediately know what we do like–what would make us feel better. We make preferences all day, every day. Small choices and some we would consider huge. We ask for improvements by our preferences.

When we make our preferences known to the universe by our vibrational thoughts, the universe immediately goes in search of matching vibrations. This is the attraction factor in the universe–otherwise known as the Law of Attraction–that which is like unto itself is drawn.

The longer we think and feel good about what we want, and if we are offering no resistance along the way, the universe will bring it to us. This is the key: no resistance! 

If you make a preference, Source understands your request, answers YES, and then goes to work gathering all the cooperative components to make it happen. It is 97% complete in the hands of Source, just waiting for us to be in the receiving mode.

So, what is the receiving mode? How do we get there?

The receiving mode feels amazing! It’s exciting, exhilarating, expecting more. It’s calm and relaxed. There is no resistance towards what we want. The pipeline is flowing freely. We allow Source to flow everything to us that we are ready for. Everything we want is gestating in perfect timing.

What do I mean by resistance?

Resistance could be anything from twinges of doubt that we will get what we want, to full-blown feelings of unworthiness. Resistance is us doing things that disallow what we want and who we truly are. It is really split energy.

On the one hand, we know what we want, we’ve asked for it and Source has answered affirmatively. So, we know it’s in good hands and being tended to. On the other hand, we may begin doubting we will get it. We may get frustrated it isn’t coming. We see other people getting that thing we want so badly and ours hasn’t come. We may start complaining to someone or justify why we should get it. We start begging and pleading for it, because it’s getting serious! Now, we NEED it! With this resistant vibration, it is getting further away from us and slowing way down.

This is split energy that is confusing the universe in it’s job. Your are giving the universe mixed signals. By law, the universe will give you everything you focus your dominant thoughts to. And, while you may be thinking you are simply thinking about what you want, you are, in reality, thinking about the lack of what you want. You are noticing what-is–your current condition with it missing.

With all this asking and then resisting, the universe is giving you a bit of each!

Your message must be clear about what you want and why. The how, when, where, and who is absolutely none of your business. That is the business of Source who is tending your request. When we venture into Source’s business of the how, when, where and who, we are throwing resistance on our path and what we want is slowed way down!

Your simple job in creating your reality is to decide what you want and why. The why just helps you fill in the details. It’s where you focus on the pleasures of having your desire. It’s imagining the desire and the joys and good feelings you will experience when you receive it.

Just think about what you want for a moment. How good does that feel?! It will feel freeing, joyous, happy, expansive, supported, appreciative. You will feel loved, cherished, accomplished, confident. See, we did all that work and there is no resistance in any of those emotions. That’s exactly where you need to be to receive what you want.

You must feel better BEFORE you can receive what you want. You can’t think, Well, when I get that, I’ll be happy, I’ll feel better. That kind of thinking will only get you more lack of what you want. It will hold that wonderful thing away from your reach.

Feeling better must always precede the receiving of what you want!

Make list of positive aspects about having this wonderful thing. Write lists and lists of the amazing feelings that you will experience. Imagine having is now!

Here’s a secret. The universe doesn’t know the difference between imagining and reality. The universe doesn’t know the difference between imagining that you have it and feeling how awesome you’ll feel, and if you actually feel really good because you already have it! All the universe is considering is your FEELING about your desire. The more you can feel amazing while imagining having your goodie, the universe thinks you must already have it, so it runs out and brings it to you! By law, it has to make it happen–and quick!

So, feel better first! Practice the feeling of having what you desire. You know it will make you feel really good when you do receive it, so take the plunge and feel better now. Make yourself feel as it is already exists in your hands. It does already exist in your vibrational escrow account. Source is tending to it’s details and growth. Waiting for you to feel better NOW!

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All is Well!

Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Holistic Coach

 

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Steps to Feel Better, Quickly!

Want to feel better?

Would you like to get off the rugged road of despair?

Want your life to flow with ease?

What the happily-ever-after life?

Ahhh! You’ve come to the right place! Today we’re going to talk about how to feel better. This is going to be short and sweet!

Let’s get going….

The quote above states, “The path to feeling better is paved with gratitude and appreciation.” 

When you’re feeling bad, you’re certainly not living a life of appreciation and gratitude. Do you want to know how I know? Easy, you’re feeling bad!

You cannot possibly feel bad and truly be appreciative and grateful. They are diametrically opposing vibrations. They are worlds apart on the vibrational spectrum. Now, don’t run away huffy. Listen a minute!

Think about how you started feeling bad in the first place. Were you complaining? Were you looking at something you don’t want? Were you mulling over in your mind, all the sh*t that’s been going on lately? Have you been talking with friends and family about how bad stuff has gotten and they totally agree with you? No wonder you feel bad.

Well, that’s a ton of momentum into the negative vibrations. Those vibrations are low, low, low! That’s definitely not where feeling-good hangs out! Have you noticed that bad stuff is starting to snowball? Momentum in the wrong direction. Momentum moving you away from feeling-good.

Calm down. Take a breath. Let’s get you feeling better now!

Here are a few steps you can take to quickly raise your vibration and paving a better-feeling future….

1. Notice how you are feeling right now. You may have a lump in your throat, a tightness in your tummy, an achy back or neck, any pain in your body. Just notice it and how you feel. Make up a feeling-scale from 1-10. One, feeling absolutely crappy and in utter despair. Ten, being jumping out of your skin with joy, doing the happy dance!
2. Grab a pen and paper/notebook. Write that feeling-number on a piece of paper at the top, circle it and date the page, too.
3. Go play with your pet for a few minutes, if you have one. Think about how awesome he/she is. Tell them how much you appreciate them being your friend and loving you unconditionally. Let them know you’re going to start feeling better real soon. They’ll get it–trust me!
4. On the paper or notebook where you wrote down the feeling-number, jot down some things you’re grateful for. Anything that has happened that feels pretty good. Something you’re grateful for that happened, instead of something bad happening. There will be a slight feeling of resistance in gratitude, because you’re comparing something good happening instead of something not as good (not as good will have a twinge of resistance and that’s okay). We’re just making gentle shifts in your vibration.
5. Now, in the notebook under your gratitude list, jot down at least 3-5 things you really appreciate. It could be about conditions, people, pets, sunrises/sunsets, the earth orbiting perfectly in space, the oxygen you breathe, your car, lover, etc. You get the idea. These things have no resistance attached to the feeling of them. You just love and adore these things. Period. There is no, I love and appreciate this, but….. I mean, how can you not totally appreciate you’re breathing and you’re heart is pumping, and you don’t even have to tell your body to do it! Got it? Good!
6. When you’re done with your appreciation list, notice how you feel now. Has your feeling-number gone up the scale–even a little bit? Write that number at the end of your writing and circle it. Feel the satisfaction of accomplishing a rise in your vibration. Smile, and put your pen down.
7. Do this every morning and evening. At minimum, once a day. It might take a bit to get started, but the more you do it, the faster those ideas flow. You may get to the point, you are writing pages of things you appreciate. It will feel like you can’t write fast enough, because they just keep flowing. My gawd! That feels wonderful!
8. If you’re still having trouble with step 1-7, go take a nap! Or, if it’s bedtime, go to bed. Sleeping slows the momentum you’ve got going. Determine to wake up and think some more positive thoughts. It would be awesome, if you would do steps 1-7 again, after your nap or in the morning.

If you faithfully practice steps 1-7 every day, you will notice that feeling-number going up on the scale. Look back on previous pages in your notebook and see how you’ve improved. This whole practice only needs to be about 15-30 minutes. Surely you have that much time in your day to start feeling better!!

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All is Well!

Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

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Why Do I Have Negative Emotions?

We all have negative emotions from time to time. I’ve heard people talk about getting rid of them for good. Some believe that we can be so spiritual that we never have negative emotions again. Some believe that we can reach a nirvana that eliminates all negative emotions. That will never happen. Here’s why….

If you’ve followed me for any length of time, you know I believe and practice the principals of the Law of Attraction–that which is like unto itself, is drawn–like attracts like. This being a powerful universal law of attraction only, there is no assertion. In other words, no one or nothing can assert anything into you life without your invitation, vibrationally. You are always vibrating through your thoughts and emotions, your message to the universe. The universe is playing a perfect matching game with those vibrations and carefully matching your vibration–bringing you the essence of your thought and feeling vibrations.

We like and accept this idea when things are going well and we are attracting more good things into our lives, but we baulk when we notice not-so-good stuff coming into our experience. We readily admit we created our reality when everything is flowing well, but, let a little turbulence come along, and we want to blame someone else for our troubles. We certainly didn’t create that bad experience!

Let’s refresh who we are….

We are extensions of Source Energy focused in this physical world, in our physical bodies. As extensions of Source, we have absolute access to all Infinite Intelligence. We ARE part of that Infinite Intelligence in our Inner Being!

Let’s review what Source Energy/Infinite Intelligence/Inner Being knows and feels….

Our Inner Being, as One with Source, knows only love and appreciation of us. There is only love and well-being flowing to us and through us from Source. Anything we desire is immediately tended to by Source and is given. All cooperative components are gathered, all resources are accumulated and waiting in our vibrational escrow account ready to pop into manifestation. There is never criticism towards us. They only focus upon our positive aspects. They know all is well–all the time! They are always calling us upward and to our expansion. They are lighting up our path of least resistance every moment of every day. They will never join us on our complaining level, but are always calling us upward to higher levels of vibrations, so we match all that we want.

Life is always offering us contrast and variety from which to make our preferences. Every time we see something, we know whether we want it or don’t want it. Whether we like it, or don’t like it.

If it’s something we like, we enjoy focusing on it. It’s fun! It feels good. We’ve made our preference known to the universe, to our Inner Being. We feel good, because we are thinking about it the same way our Source or Inner Being is thinking about it. Both are enjoying the expansion, the new becoming. Basically, you and YOU are on the same wavelength.

When we see something we don’t want, we have a moment of negative emotion that let’s us know we don’t want it. At the same time, we immediately request the improvement of that condition and know that would feel better.

Negative emotions only hang around when we’ve focused more attention on what we don’t want. We complain about the condition or person. We talk to others about how bad it is–and they agree. We are justified in not wanting that thing!

So, why does it feel so bad?

It’s because you’ve chosen to continue to think about something you don’t want hanging around you. You have tuned your vibration to a lower level than where your Inner Being is vibrating. You feel the disconnection. You feel yourself pinched off from your Inner Being and what it is thinking about the same subject. Your Inner Being is only seeing positive aspects of everything.

You may have identified something you don’t want, which is fine, but get off that end of the subject, because your Inner Being is not going to join you there. Your Inner Being knows you are so much more! Your Inner Being knows you have identified something you don’t want, and immediately knew what you did want, so your Inner Being became what you did want. Your Inner Being expanded–YOU became what you did want!

But, hanging out in the don’t want crowd has held you back from keeping up with who your Inner Being knows who you have already become! You are holding YOU back!

Your Inner Being already knows you have become what you do want, but you’re lolly-gagging back in the don’t want section of life. And, it can feel like major negative emotion.

But, you know what?! If you are feeling that negative emotion and you don’t like how it feels, that’s the indication you are sensitive to your emotional guidance system–and that’s great!

Now, you can focus on what you do want and look for thoughts that bring relief. When you start feeling better by the thoughts you have chosen, you are now tuning in to the same vibration as your Inner Being! Your Inner Being only looks at what you want and who you really are–and never, ever, looks at what you don’t want!

So, when you start focusing you attention more on what you do want, now you are aligning with the Source within–your Inner Being. And, that feels really great! Because your Inner Being already knows this is who you really are!!!!

Remember, every time life offers you contrast or variety, it’s there for you to choose your preferences. This picking and choosing what you do want is expanding All-That-Is! Every decision you make about what you do want, you are growing not only your Inner Being, but you are expanding the entire Universe! 

Don’t fret because you keep having to experience stuff and make all these decisions about what you want, think of it as an adventure in life. Every time you say, yes, to something you love, you are calling more life force through you! That keeps your Inner Being eternally expanding and keeps your body humming along in well-being! Yep, it all affects your body, too.

Variety is the spice of life! 

Enjoy spicing it up!!! Have fun and relax knowing your Inner Being is 100% behind you and all that you want!

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All is Well!

Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

 

 

 

Will Yours Be A Great Day?

How many times have you been wished a great day in passing?

Maybe someone you love wished you a great day, so you knew they really meant it.

Did you take them up on it?

Did you decide to have a great day? Or, did you make other plans?

How much planning goes in to having a great day?

For starters, your great day begins the night before. A great day is something you intend and plan for. If you’re in a crappy mood when you go to sleep, you’ll most likely wake up in the same crappy mood. It doesn’t have to be that way, because when you sleep your momentum from the previous day’s thoughts subside. Your resistance subsides during sleep.

When you awaken, you have a fresh day to start anew. You are blessed with a brand new baby day! Only you choose what kind of day you will experience. You could wake up and start thinking where you left off the night before, and that could be either good or bad, happy or crappy, empowered or disempowered. It’s always your choice for the kind of day you’ll have.

If you’d like to plan on having a great day, start the night before and when you lay your head on that pillow, think of things you appreciate. The roof over your head, the conditioned air, the cozy bed and blankies, your fluffy pillow. Appreciate the well-being you experience–even if you’re sick or hurting, there are still functions of your body that are operating properly without your direct attention required. Appreciate the fact that you don’t have to stay away and tell your body to breathe for you, or tell your heart to pump. Appreciate the sunset you may have enjoyed. Appreciate your pet that loves you unconditionally. Appreciate positive aspects about what is going right in your life and the people you love.

Once you start finding things to appreciate, sometimes you get on a roll and can hardly stop! The momentum you are creating with the Law of Attraction, will continue to bring you more and more things to appreciate. Awesome, right?!

It’s a whole lot easier to wake up with happy thoughts of a great day, when you’ve gone to bed with a list of happy thoughts running through your mind the night before.

Now, you could have made plans to have a crappy day, and that is certainly your choice. Buy, why?! Why would you want to go through the day feeling that bad?

Why not wake up and determine to begin your day with pleasant thoughts? Purpose in your mind to start that list of appreciation all over, again. Lay there for just a few moments before you get up and revel in the satisfaction and comfort of your bed. Appreciate that the sun that is coming up. Revel in the fact that the world is in perfect orbit and in perfect placement with the rest of the universe–and you don’t have to worry about it!

I love what my bonus daughter (we don’t use the term step in our blended family unit), always says about her days. She says, It’s always a good day! It might be a bad 10 minutes, but it’s always a good day! Don’t you just love that attitude from a 24-year-old ICU nurse? Now, you know she’s seen some bad sh*t that could make for a really bad day. But, she only plans to have a good day, no matter what!

Have a great day…and don’t make other plans!

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All is Well!!

Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

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Who Are YOU?

“Know you are worthy. Know you are valuable. Know you are love. Know YOU!” ~Mary Ann Pack

Do you know who you are?

I’m not talking about your identity as a partner, a parent, your career, your religion or your political affiliation. Those are wonderful, meaningful events, but that’s not who you are.

I’m referring to the real you–the inside you–your Inner Being.

In conversations with other people, we tend to speak about each other as the parent of…the wife of…the department head of…the follower of…or even the volunteer of X political party. We focus on labels to identify who we think we are. When we hear that so-in-so holds this position or is the parent of that child, we think we can pigeon-hole and make certain assumptions as to who they are.

We make judgments, without necessarily, even recognizing what we are doing. We’ve done it so long, if just feels natural or normal. We tend not to look beyond the physical trappings of life and into the soul.

We do this to ourselves, too. If I was to walk up and ask you who you were, what would you answer? Depending upon the situation or conversation, you’d be likely to answer, I’m the parent of Sam. I’m the supervisor for Company X. I belong to the X political party and vote this way. I’m the activist for X project.

But, that’s not the inside you. That’s not your soul, spirit or Inner Being. That’s not who you really are.

Let me remind you about who you really are. This is what I know about you!

• You are an extension of Source Energy.
• You are perfect, pure positive Light and Love.
• You are loved and you ARE Love.
• You are One with All-That-Is, all that ever was, is, and will ever be.
• You are an unlimited, eternal non-physical entity.
• The non-physical part of you, some call it your soul or spirit, is greater, wiser and older than your physical experience.
• You created your body and your physical life experience.
• You came here to experience the joy of creation.
• You came here to this particular time-space reality to live on the leading edge of thought.
• You came here to shine your brilliance.
• You are worthy. Period.
• You are worthy whether you do anything or not. Doing does not constitute worthiness. Worthiness is your being. It’s who you are.
• You are valuable. Period.
• Your value is not dependent upon your actions. You are joyously valuable right here, right now, and every now thereafter.
• You are unconditionally loved. You don’t have to change any condition or behavior to be loved by Source. You just are.
• You are appreciated by Source Energy.
• Source Energy is always, and only, flowing love and appreciation to you and through you.
• You are an ever-expanding eternal creator who harnesses the power that creates worlds!
• You always feel good.
• You always think good-feeling thoughts about you, the physical.
• You only see good in others and their highest potential.
• You love seeing the contrast or variety that your physical life experience has to offer, knowing that it will help you choose your preferences for more of what you do want.
• You love the creative process of becoming more, every time you see something you don’t want, and then, know what you do want.
• It’s thrilling for you to look through your physical eyes into the world and see things you love and appreciate.
• It feels so good to you, when you can look at the differences in the world, and know it doesn’t affect your ability to choose happiness.
• You appreciate differences, contrast and variety. You love the saying, Variety is the spice of life!, because you are living that spicy life!
• You never look upon anyone or any condition with criticism.
• You will never agree with the physical you, when you get on a rampage of complaining or hatred.
• You refuse to join in any criticism or complaining, whatsoever.
• You are always calling the physical you, to a higher and higher vibrational life, because it feels so good.
• You are here for the expansion of it all, for the joy of it all, for the fun of it all!
• You are free to choose anything you want to be, do or have.
• You are so free, you could choose bondage, but you choose freedom, because it feels so awesome!
• You are amazing and love sharing the joy of who you are!!!

These are just some of the things I know about you and who you really are.

When are YOU going to start believing them?

If you need assistance in remembering who you really are, I’m here to help. Reach out to me and I’ll walk with you into your expanded becoming! YOU ARE WORTHY!

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All is Well!!

Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

 

 

 

 

 

Resisting Anything Attracts More!

“If you are resisting anything, you are focused upon it, pushing against it, and activating the vibration of it – and therefore attracting that which is like it.” ~Abraham-Hicks

If we insist upon resisting or pushing against anything we do not agree with, do not like, do not appreciate, we will simply attracting more things we do not agree with, do not like, do not appreciate!

Anything we give our focused attention to will bring more of the same essence to us. It’s Law! We can never, ever, push against something we don’t like and expect it to go away. There is no supporting Law of Resistance! Resistance is contrary to the Law of Attraction.

Our thoughts and emotions create our vibrational point of attraction. There are always emotions behind our thoughts, which emit vibrational frequencies. The Universe is simply feeling our vibration and matching, with great accuracy, the vibration we are emitting. That is the premise of the Law of Attraction—that which is like unto itself, is drawn—like attracts like.

There is no exclusion. We cannot shout, NO, at anything we do not want and expect it to go away. When we push against or resist anything, we are giving it our attention and bringing it to the attention of others, which increases its power and expands it rapidly!

It’s like saying, “You that I do not like, that I do not want, that I do not appreciate, come to me! I am giving my attention to you, that is unwanted, so please bring more of it to me!”

In a universe governed by the Law of Attraction, we are always, and only, attracting every-single-thing that comes into our experience. Remember, the universe can only match our vibration—so, some thought-vibration within us was activated, matched and expanded into our experience.

So, how do we make something we don’t want, go away?!

We focus on something different, something pleasing, something we do want, something we appreciate. Say, what?! How can focusing on something more pleasing help get rid us of the thing we don’t want?

Again, it’s all about attraction! By law, whatever we focus upon is what the universal forces match to bring us more. Maybe you’re thinking, “How can anything bad go away when we don’t make others aware of how bad it really is? How can simply thinking about something that pleases us, help to improve the bad situation? That’s ridiculous! That’s sticking my head in the sand!”

Notice how you feel when you think about, talk about, create a group to fight against something that you’ve deemed bad. Do you feel light-hearted and happy? Do you feel expansive and joyous? Or, do you feel overwhelmed, disempowered, out-of-control, revengeful, heavy and contracted?

If we are honest, when we think about things that upset us or things we don’t like, we must acknowledge, we feel like shit! Honestly, fighting against anything or anyone never feels good! Taking sides and being against anything destroys our relationship with our Inner Source and with all other people. Disconnection never satisfies!

Now, notice how you feel when you think about things that please you, that you appreciate, that you really want. It feels amazing! There’s a song in your heart, there’s joy that bubbles up, and you feel light and empowered. You feel love. You feel like shouting with exultation from the rooftops!

Each of those feelings are emitting a vibrational frequency that become your point of attraction. Which would you prefer? To feel good or to feel bad? Seems like a no-brainer, but we see people, all the time, giving excuses as to why they cannot feel good. And, then there are others who always seem to be in a good mood, no matter the circumstances!

The good news is that you have a choice in how you feel and what you attract!

When a circumstance or the behavior of a person comes into your experience and you notice that you don’t like it, you immediate know what would be better—you immediately ask (vibrationally) for an improvement. This circumstance or behavior is simply contrast that life is presenting you with, so you can make a choice of what you’d really like. It helps you clarify your desires. It helps you give detail to what you really want.

Resisting and pushing against that which is unwanted or displeasing, gives it energy to grow. Remember, it’s law! On the other hand, if you see the contrast and focus on the improvement, you are giving that energy for it to grow. Again, it’s simply the law of the universe.

When thought/emotional energy is given to any subject, it expands. It doesn’t matter if it feels good or bad. When thought/emotional energy is withdrawn from any subject, it diminishes and loses its power. There truth to the old saying, “Ignore it, it will go away!”

This philosophy seems counter-intuitive to most people who do not understand the Law of Attraction. Most folks have been taught to fight against what they have deemed bad. They’ve been taught to fight again folks they disagree with or who don’t do it their right way. They feel they need to control the behavior of others—punishing them when they don’t follow the rules created to control behavior. Most rules are made from a place of fear, of a need to control, of misalignment with our true goodness/God-ness within.

The only way to diminish what we do not want, what we don’t like, is to withdraw our attention from the unwanted and focus our undivided attention upon the improvement we’ve vibrationally asked for. Once we ask for an improvement, Source Energy immediately answers, YES! Source begins gathering all the necessary cooperative components to provide for our desire. In other words, we ask and Source/God answers, yes.

So, now what happens?

The next step is to allow ourselves to receive it—allow ourselves to align with our Source Energy within and be happy. We must focus upon the amazing improvement we’ve asked for. We feel how good it feels to have the improvement we’ve asked for—now! We think about our desire without inserting any doubting that we will have our desired improvement. And, we don’t worry about that unwanted thing! This is absolute key! Remove it from your mind, from your thought energy, from your realm of awareness. Ignoring the unwanted is the sure-fire way to weaken its power and diminish its influence.

Here’s a secret. The universe doesn’t know if what you are feeling has already happened or if it hasn’t happened yet. This is where your power lies. The universe is matching is your vibrational signals. It’s incredibly important to conjure the good-feelings, as if you already have your improvement—now. Power is always in the now! The universe is matching feelings/vibrations—not the subject matter—not the physical reality of it. The universe understands and matches what you mean/feel, not what you say.

Let me give you an example….

Let’s consider the fight against cancer that is so rampant in our world. With the creation of the cancer awareness groups and campaigns, with the energy of money donated for cancer-disease research, with the marches for cancer survivors—we have simply given cancer more power and energy to expand! You can read the statistics. Cancer is on the rise, not the decline! This proves to us that concentrating our attention and energy upon something will expand it in every way! It’s law! It must bring us more of the same essence, and more, and more, and more! If fighting against cancer worked, we would see a sharp decline in cancer rates.

If we could get ahold of the principles of the universal Law of Attraction and apply them, we would ignore the horrors of cancer and focus on amazing health. We would focus on good foods that give our bodies nourishment and vitality. We would focus upon appreciating our bodies and their marvelous support they give us each, and every day. We would focus upon the joys of life and nature. We would live harmoniously with each other. We would be happy AND healthy! Well-being is our natural state and our bodies would return to vitality and health, if we would focus upon well-being, vitality and health, instead of disease!

Guess what we’re doing when we focus upon the pleasantries of life—when we focus with appreciation and gratitude? We are vibrating with a frequency that attracts more of the same! We are expanding what we really do want—by law!

Try it in your own life. Prove to yourself, the principles of the Law of Attraction to be true. All you have to do is look around the circumstances of your life. Are they pleasing and what you do want? Or, are they troublesome and, definitely, not what you want? Whatever the circumstances, you have attracted them by your attitude and thoughts. Any crap? You attracted that! Any goodness? You, also, attracted that!

Where do we go from here?

Begin noticing how you feel—take a feeling-barometer reading of your emotions. Do you feel good or bad? Empowered or disempowered? Confident or like a loser? Your emotional feelings are the indicator to monitor—which is a whole lot easier than trying to monitor every thought. When you notice yourself feeling bad, turn your attention to something that feels better. Even a little better. Always reach for the better-feeling thought.

The longer you stay focused upon something pleasing, the faster similar thoughts will race in to support the good-feeling. This is referred to as momentum. By law, the universe notices your better-feeling and within 17 seconds will send another supporting thought. Every 17 seconds, another thought like the preceding ones will attract more of the same, until you have reached the 68-second mark and you will have a good momentum of good-feeling thoughts flowing. Congratulation! You have shifted your point of attraction in those moments and the universe is lining up all the good things you desire to rush into your reality.

Now, do this all throughout the day. Every time you notice you’re feeling good, revel in it. Milk it for all it’s worth. Roll around in the deliciousness of the wonderful feeling. It will get easier and easier to find things to appreciate, because the universe will be bringing you more and more things to appreciate! That’s not hopefulness—that’s law!

The Law of Attraction can work in your favor, if you practice feeling good! Then, watch as those things you used to resist and push against, fall away and diminish their influence in your life. Just remember, every single person must find their own joyful, good-feelings if they are to improve their lives. If they are in the throes of a disparaging circumstance, they must find their own happiness and learn to focus upon their desire improvement. No one can improve another’s circumstances sustainably. The only sustainable better-feeling-life comes from within. No outside sources can satisfy a person’s lack of relationship one has with their own Higher Self.

Let’s start using the principles of the Law of Attraction with purpose. Make it your priority to feel good, so the universe can match those good-feelings with more of the same essence! Find things to appreciate. Make lists of wonderful things you love to think about. Notice what brings you pleasure and ponder them with joyous emotional feelings. Instead of resisting and pushing against something or someone, support and focus upon the improvement. Feel the good-feeling as if it has already happened. We only desire things because we think we will feel better by the having of them—so feel better now—so it can expand and come to us!!

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All is Well!!

 

Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

 

Sacred Appreciation

“I believe that appreciation is a holy thing–that when we look for what’s best in a person we happen to be with at the moment, we’re doing what God does all the time. So in loving and appreciating our neighbor, we’re participating in something sacred.” ~Fred Rogers

I love this quote from Mr. Rogers–the man who taught many of us to enjoy and love our neighbors. He taught us that kindness and listening to others was important to living a happy life.

Have you ever considered that appreciating another person is a sacred practice?

When we look for positive aspects to appreciate in another, we are seeing people through the eyes of Source Energy/God/Infinite Intelligence. Source always and only sees us as precious, perfect, pure light beings. There is never, ever, any condemnation towards us. There is only perfect unconditional love and affection towards us from Source.

We only feel bad when we condemn or judge others, because we are not in alignment with our Inner Source. For our Inner Source never condemns nor judges anyone.

When we hold a person, our neighbor, as our focused point of attention and we see the good in them, the positive aspects of them–of their Inner Being–we are seeing them how Source sees them every moment and we get to share in that moment.We are sharing the mind and thoughts of Source at that moment! What a joy! What a delight!

We have created a sacred practice just by appreciating another person. We are participating in the Divine Oneness of All That Is!

Who are our neighbors?

Obviously, they are all around us. They are folks in our neighbor hood, in our schools, in our workplace, in our churches, synagogues, and temples. They are also the folks we see on the news in far away lands, or the next city, state or country.

Our neighbors are those we enjoy and support. They are, also, the ones we do not share common interests with or maybe even disagree with vehemently. As humanity, all of us are neighbors–even the difficult ones. We are all one. We are all connected by the fact that we all share the spirit of the Divine Source within.

Diversity of ideas, cultures, beliefs and ways of living is the high calling to expand humanity’s creative expression. Just because they don’t live like us or don’t believe what we’ve chosen to believe, doesn’t mean they are not loved and adored by Source. Guess what? Source loves and appreciates them just as much as us! Source plays no favorites. Source never condemns or withholds love from anyone–not even the ones we don’t like–or maybe even despise. Not one of us are broken or need some kind of salvation to gain the love of Source. We are all loved no matter the condition of our lives–that is how Source sees us and unconditionally loves us.

I love what His Holiness the Dalai Lama says about his difficult neighbors. Sacred friends is how he refers to those who try his patience and love the most, those who make it difficult to extend kindness to, those who are just plain difficult to love. These sacred friends are the ones that challenge him and help him grow the most. So, in that way, he knows they are sacred helpers on his path of enlightenment.

Let’s appreciatie our neighbors–in all their glory–then, we are participating in a sacred practice of seeing humanity as Divine Source sees us all!

All is Well!

~ Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

Remember the 99 and Set Boundaries

“You can do 99 things for some people and all they will remember is the one thing you didn’t do.” ~PowerOfPositivity

People. Pleasing. Does. Not. Work!

It is not sustainable. People-pleasing was never meant to be a sustainable relationship. It will wear you out and make you resentful and very unhappy. And, in the end, it will never really please the other person in the way they want to be pleased.

We are all here, physically, to experience a great relationship with Ourselves, Non-physically (spiritually, eternally). When that relationship is not at its best, we look outside ourselves to shore up the feeling of the alignment we are seeking within Ourselves. But, that outside-seeking is never going to satisfy our need for alignment within, so it will never please us and make us happy enough to live a joy-filled life. We will always feel dependent upon others to do the job we intended to perform to gain our personal alignment with who we really are.

Please stop trying to  please others at the risk of emotional, mental and physical exhaustion on your part! It is futile.

None of us came to this physical life with the purpose to please others and make sure they were happy. We came to this life with the purpose of living joyful, creative lives. Never dependent on anyone else for our happiness or our alignment.

That means…each of us! That doesn’t mean some of us came to be pleased and some of us came to be pleasers! We each came here knowing that it was solely our job to be happy–without anyone else’s help–or demanding anything from anyone. No control. No demands.

How do I know this?

I know this because of how it makes me feel when I succumb to people-pleasing tactics. I feel like sh*t! When I get stuck doing something for someone that I never wanted to do in the first place, but did it anyway out of responsibility or obligation. You know the feeling–you start to get tense, maybe your stomach churns or get a lump in your throat. You start to resent having to do something, again, for this one who always seems to be so good at needing emergency help, or in-a-bind-favors. Over and over again. It gets very exhausting!

Besides your mental and emotional stress, all that tension and resentment is taking a toll on your physical body. Your body is very sensitive to the vibrational frequencies you are emitting through your thoughts and emotions. If your emotions are out of whack–imagine what your poor body is going through??? Pretty soon, you’ll have a reason not to extend any more favors, because your body will create an illness, pain or disease that will prevent you anyway.

I’m NOT saying you can never do something for someone else. Not at all! If you can do something for another person and you can stay aligned and happy in the doing of it–then by all means–follow your heart!! It can be an amazing delight to be a help to another person!

I’m talking about the repetitive cries for help that never seem to end. Sometimes they tend to get bigger and more time-consuming. You’d like to tell them to get their sh*t together and get a life. They are not the center of your world–you are!

If we feel taken advantage of, it time we must learn to set boundaries. Takers tend to step and stomp all over their helper’s lives. Taking no notice of the inconvenience and expense they may cause another. So, setting boundary lines is the only way to stop the abuse.

Setting boundaries is our opportunity to think different thoughts. Obviously, we have attracted the time and energy vampires by our previous vibrational thought patterns and beliefs. We invited people to demand our time and energy by thinking thoughts of our not enough-ness. Beliefs that we must serve others before our own needs and desires. That being selfish with my time and resources is wrong. That it is better to give than receive! Thinking, if I can just change my behavior enough to please him/her, then I will be appreciated and accepted. Bullpucky!!

You can’t keep serving from an empty pitcher. Self-care is necessary and life-sustaining. Time and resources are solely ours to keep or share at our bidding. Giving and receiving are two sides of the exact same coin–they are equal! We can never change our behavior enough to please anyone for any length of time–because they are always changing what they want us to be, according to their whim of the day.

When someone is truly in need and we can feel good while we are performing the favor, then by all means, do it! Delight in serving another. But, never, ever perform a favor for someone if you are doing it out of dread, fear, obligation, guilt, resentment–you get the picture. This attitude will not truly help them or yourself. Only perform favors when you are happy and truly glad to help out. Our alignment with who we really are is the guiding inspiration regarding any action to be performed. If it feels good–do it!

On the other side of this, we may need to question if we are the person who is not appreciating the favors of time and energy someone have given us. Are we the one who constantly demands favors from others? Are we the one who is not appreciating the 99 things people do for us and only remembering that one thing they didn’t do? Are we holding a grudge for that one little thing left undone?

If we are a time and energy vampire, it’s time to focus upon our own alignment with our inner being and let go of the need to control others’ behavior to make us feel better. Feeling better is truly what we are looking for–which only comes through our alignment with our Inner Source. Maybe it’s time to take up our own job of alignment with our inner being and begin thinking in new ways that help us feel better and better. Maybe it’s time to change some beliefs–that others owe us, that we are the center of everyone’s universe, that we are the victim and we can’t help that everyone’s out to get us, that we simply cannot help ourselves.

Look for things to appreciate. If someone is doing something for us, tell them how much we appreciate all their help. Make lists of things we appreciate about our life and the part others play in our experience. Look for positive aspects of all that comes our way.

The more we make the effort to live a life of appreciation, the more the universe feels this new shift in vibration and will bring us more things to appreciate! Remember and make a list of all the 99 things done for us. As we focus appreciation for the 99 things, we’ll not even remember the one that didn’t get done. It won’t even matter!

All is Well!!

~ Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

 

 

 

Stress Relief 101

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” ~William James

We tend to think of stress as coming from outside sources. You may recognize some of the following statements about stress.

This situation with him stresses me out!

I’m going through a stressful week at work.

I’m so stressed out over finances.

Driving in traffic stresses me to rage!

You get the idea.

Pure and simple, stress is resistance–resistance against something we don’t like or something we may not want to do, but feel obligated or responsible to fulfill. Resistance against someone who we don’t agree with or don’t like to be around. Stress doesn’t feel good.

In this universe governed by the Law of Attraction where–that which is like unto itself, is drawn–like simply attracts like. When laws are involved, there is no other option. The Law states that like attracts like. The universe is playing a matching game where the rule demands when a vibration is given off, it must, by law, find something that essentially matches the same vibration.

We know that everything is energy–thank you, Albert–and as such, our every thought is energy. We, also, know that energy is in constant motion and gives off vibrations. So, our thoughts are constantly giving off vibrations of different frequencies.

If the universe, by law, is matching each vibration of thought, and if we are thinking we are under stress, doesn’t it stand to reason we have attracted whatever stressors we believe we are suffering, by our own thoughts??

So, if we have attracted the stress by our thoughts, can’t we simply change our thoughts to a different vibrational frequency to gain some relief? I’m so glad you asked! Yes, we can!!

Because we attracted stress by our thoughts, we absolutely can change our thoughts to change our attraction to stressors. We have the power within our thoughts to attract a calm and peaceable life! Ease and flow can be the dominant experience with the right kind of thoughts–thoughts that actually feel good.

Stress is a resistance to something or someone unwanted. Resistant thoughts activate more thoughts of resistance, which attract more resistance. We are now completely stressed out!!

Instead, why not look for positive aspects in an unwanted situation? Remember the saying about everything having a silver lining? Find something, some aspect, to appreciate as you are facing something unwanted, rather than being in resistance. Every time we look for something to appreciate, we are activating our vibrational attraction of more to appreciate!

Every situation is either fulfilling a desire or clarifying a desire. In other words, when we are experiencing something we attracted–because we attract everything that comes to us–it is either fulfilling one of our desires or it is giving us time to clarify the details of a desired improvement.

While we are facing some situation that we see could turn into a stress for us, why not take the opportunity to change our thoughts and find something to appreciate. Even if it’s simply to appreciate the opportunity to decide more clearly what we really do want.

Appreciate that this person has given you the opportunity to clarify an improved vision of your relationships. Appreciate the fact that you have work and want to be successful. Appreciate a characteristic or quality that the person exemplifies–even if it’s that they have nice hair! Appreciate that you have a vehicle and feel yourself gliding on a magic carpet of ease and flow through traffic.

And maybe, just maybe, you may have to say, NO. No, I will not help with this project. No, I will not help you move this weekend. No, son/daughter we are not joining another athletic team that takes away from our family time. No, to the busyness. No, to the hurrying. Just say NO!

We are not here to please others. We are not here to make sure everyone else is happy at the expense of our sanity and well-being. We must stop being people-pleasers! We can never do enough for others to please them all the time. And, there are just too many moving parts to please or control! Resisting our well-being by trying to please everyone else is attracting way to much stress. The more people-pleasing you perform, the more reasons you’ll attract unnecessary stress.

But, we have the power to say no to others, and yes to ourselves, our peace of mind and well-being. Yes to our freedom of choice! Yes to new thought patterns that bring relief.

Yes, this change of attitude and thought patterns take time and practice, but the effort is so worth…YOU!

All is Well!

~ Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

 

Should I Doubt My Beliefs?

“It is ok to doubt what you have been taught to believe.” ~Divine Feminine Reawakening

Think back over what you have been taught to believe. It doesn’t necessarily mean religious dogma only–it includes all aspects of your belief system. It could be attitudes and beliefs about money, power, sexism, racism, relationships, careers, love–anything really.

When you think about a subject and what you were taught about it, notice how it makes you feel. Do you get a tightening in your throat or stomach? Do you feel your neck, arms or legs tense? Does it not resonate within you?

If so, you may need to doubt that what you’ve been taught to believe is for your highest good. You may need to examine why you were taught that belief.

Was it out of fear?

Was it out of the feeling of lack?

Was it out of someone’s need to control your life?

Was it out of guilt and shame?

We are not here to control others. We didn’t come here to find the only right path for everyone to follow, and when they don’t, we punish them or coerce them with shame. Fortunately, we each have our very own built-in emotional guidance system that will lead us on our personal path–if we will learn to feel our way. We are here to experience a life full of joy and love. Now, THAT feels good!

Maybe it’s time to reconsider things that you were taught. Maybe it’s time to change some of your beliefs to ones that actually resonate with your soul. When you believe something that makes you feel really good–really alive and vibrant–you are on the right track for YOU! Other’s opinions and beliefs have absolutely nothing to do with you and who you really are!

As long as your beliefs make YOU feel good, with a peaceful mind and heart, they are for your highest good. Never, ever, feel guilty or ashamed to question your beliefs! Appreciate yourself when you search for beliefs that feel good and resonate with your Inner Being!!

Only you can live your life with joy and peace. No one and nothing else will matter in the end. The only thing that matters is that you feel good about you and what you believe!

All is Well!

~ Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach