Is it Too Hard to Be Happy?

I was visiting with a young woman, recently, and she was complaining of having a bad day. When I greeted her that morning, she started off by complaining about being tired. She had been working on something she didn’t want to be doing the previous few days.

I told her it was her choice to be happy or not. Her reply stunned me! She said,

“It’s too hard to be happy!”

Then I thought back over my life when I was miserable and always complaining. I knew I was supposed to be at peace and be joyous—my religion told me so—but, I wasn’t. Well, let me take that back—I wasn’t on a consistent basis. I was at peace and joyful when conditions were right. If everything was going well, I was happy. As soon as I had an uncomfortable situation rear its head, my mood immediately dropped. Usually with a very loud thud!

The complaining and blaming would commence. I just had to tell everyone my newest plight. I had to get others to see how horribly I had been treated or what new suffering I had to endure. Misery set in for days, weeks—even months.

But now….

But NOW, I am practicing my happiness.

You may ask,

“How do you practice happiness? Is that even possible?”

I am finally learning that by making choices about what I think, will keep me in a better-feeling place.  I am finally learning to practice choosing thoughts that bring relief. I am choosing thoughts that feel better and better.

When some thought knocks on the door of my mind, I look through the peep-hole and see who it is. If I see a thought or thoughts about a situation that I do not want, I stop looking at it through the peep-hole and walk away. Saying, “I so glad I don’t have to answer the door and invite that bad-feeling thought in for coffee.”

I can turn around and choose to look for something to appreciate, something that feels good to think about.

Sometimes, for a while, I can still hear the thought outside my door, yelling and screaming at the top of their lungs to let them in. That they need my immediate attention. That they need to discuss a lot of things. Sometimes, I can still hear their words through the closed door and if I’m not careful to distract myself by looking for things to appreciate, I will start listening to them and give them some attention. But, my god, it feels awful!

I am beginning to really care about how I feel. It’s becoming my priority to make sure I feel better and better every day. When the twins, Appreciation and Gratitude, come knocking, I throw open the door to my mind and say, “Please, do come in and stay a while! We have so much to talk about!”

You know, every now and then, I will see the BFT (Bad-Feeling-Thoughts) run past a window and around to the back door, but I’m so enjoying my visit with the twins that I don’t even bother with their whining.

This little metaphor is to let you know that you are in charge of who you give attention to. Did you notice I said give attention? Yep, it’s your choice to give your attention and time to thoughts. You are the only thinker of your thoughts. No one else can think for you. No one can force you to think thoughts. Thoughts are your very sacred possession! So guard them well.

Now that I am practicing my own happiness and am getting better and better at it every day, I can’t imagine why anyone would want to be unhappy. Why would happiness be harder than being miserable?

For one thing, we don’t like change. We are comfortable with what is. The unknown is a little scary. We may have practiced negative thought patterns for so long, they are almost like a friend. Even though we don’t like them, they’re all we have. We think it’s better to have a crappy friend than no friend at all. We don’t realize what a great friend we have in happiness!

Our old friend, NTP (Negative Thought Pattern) has hung around with us so long they are just second nature. They feel real. We try to think of good things, but NTP keeps butting into the conversation. We are getting really tired of NTP controlling our lives. We are not having a good time and they always bring Trouble.

You’ve heard about the Law of Attraction and all this mindset transformation stuff. You may have even seen some positive changes in some of your friends. You know you want something better.

So, what can we do?

The best way to get rid of NTP is to give some air-time to the twins, Appreciation and Gratitude. Sometimes, those buggers are hard to find, though! Especially at first, you really have to look for them. Don’t let NTP get the best of your attention.

The only thing that’s even remotely hard about happiness is that we have to actually practice thought discipline. Eeuuuwww! There’s that word that sounds hard—discipline!

If you’re too lazy to change your mind, just go take a nap.

Let me share with you how I went from Complaining Princess to Good-Feeling Goddess!

Every morning that I can, I go outside and sit on my wonderful porch and enjoy the early morning air. I look up at the sky and begin a conversation with Source Energy. I begin by appreciating Source for making me the positive affection of their gaze. I express my gratitude for the love I feel flowing to me and through me. I express gratitude for the support I experience with clarity, fun, ease, happiness, peace, harmony, inspiration, everything working out for me, loving relationships, etc. I loop that list over and over until I feel revitalized with good feelings. I list all the things I have that I am appreciating. I appreciate who I am becoming!!

Next I tell my story the way I want it to be—I do not include anything that may reflect a negative what is. This is my visualization time. I tell the story just like I would sit with you and tell you all about the wonderful things that are happening in my life. I make the story very emotional with all the sights, tastes, smells, feelings and what I hear. I am very animated when I tell my story. I make hand gestures, I raise my eyebrows, smile, giggle and do a happy-dance when it comes to that part of the story!!

I do this because I want to feel how real it is, because I know it is real in my vibrational reality. I’ve already created it and I’m just getting lined up vibrationally so it will come out and play with me.

There are so many times that I add another little detail to the story every time I tell it, that makes it even better! I get more clear on the details. Sometimes, I’ll get an inspired idea that I can take action on. Most of all, I do it because it feels really good to tell my story the way I want it to be. As I do this every day that I can, I’m building momentum and my point of attraction is zeroing in on what I want.

This exercise is a wonderful way to get into alignment with who we really are. If you don’t know who you really are, let me just tell you a little about You!

You are…

  • You are an extension of Source Energy
  • You are an eternal being of light and love
  • You are pure, positive energy
  • You are perfection
  • You made you (You the eternal made you the physical)
  • You are worthy of all good things
  • You are ever-expanding, eternally, into a more and more beautiful…YOU!

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All is Well!!

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Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life and Wellness Coach


Wake Up in Anticipation

“Wake up in anticipation, something great is going to happen today!”

“Ugh! It’s morning. Just another day to claw and scratch my way through the day. I hate mornings. It just reminds me how much my life sucks!”

Does this feel familiar?

Is this how your mornings start?

How does it make you feel?

Pretty crappy, I assume. If this is how you have been anticipating your days, no wonder you are probably experiencing pain, suffering, loss, poor finances, unhealthy relationships, maybe even poor health.

I get it! Life can really prove to you that it sucks. You work your tail off and can’t even pay the bills every month—let alone get ahead! They did this to you. That happened and now you’re the one paying for it. The list goes on and one with what’s wrong with life—your life!

When you anticipate a crappy life, you will certainly get a crappy life in return. What we expect, we receive. This may be the first time you’ve considered this, but did you know that the universe we live in is governed by what’s referred to as the law of attraction—yep, it’s a universal law. That means in all the universes—this law rules.

The law of attraction simply says, that which is like unto itself, is drawn.  To simplify that even more—like attracts like.  Energy stuff attracts more energy stuff that is just like it.

Albert Einstein—that cool scientist with the crazy hair—says that everything is energy. Energy is in constant motion and this motion creates vibrations. The universe feels all the vibrations going on in the entire universe and its job is really easy. Just match up all the same vibrations! So, it’s like a gigantic matching game that the universe is always, always, always playing. It never takes a break or vacation or sleeps. The universe is always consistent and follows one, and only one rule—match every vibration to the same kind of vibration.

Well, guess what? Your thoughts are energy. Your emotions are energy. Your body is energy. But, maybe you already know all this stuff. So, what’s the point?!

All that energy you are living is vibrating! Guess who’s feeling it?! THE UNIVERSE!!! Guess what it’s doing on your behalf? MATCHING YOUR VIBRATIONS!!

So, if you are vibrating crappy thoughts, which create crappy emotions, you get matched up with a crappy experience. Then you see what a crappy life you’re living and you say, “I told you, life was crappy! I just got more crap piled on top of me. That proves life sucks!”

The coolest thing about the life is that stuff we experience is NOT permanent. Just because you’re experiencing a crappy life right now, doesn’t mean you have to for the rest of your life!! When you change your vibrations, the universe feels the shift and goes out and finds more of the new vibration to match it, instead.

This is the greatest news you could possibly get today!! You have a choice whether to think about anticipating all the crap—and get more of that—OR, you can think about anticipating some improvement—and getting that.

If you really want to see improvement in your life, you’re going to have to pull on your big-pants make a decision to take back your control of your thoughts, because your thoughts are what create your emotions. You know this, too. You know very well, your thoughts either feel good or they feel bad. Those feelings are what the universe is feeling, too! If you’ve just been letting your thoughts run rampant—you’re creating your life from default. Just letting whatever come up and slap you in the face—over and over. Different place, different faces!

If you’re finally ready to have a great life—one you would love—it’s time to create life on purpose or by design. Yep, you actually can design your life! Do you realize you have that much power?! You want know how?

Start controlling what you think about!

The goal is to think about stuff that makes you feel better. When you begin even a little bit to think about something that you like—or love—you’ll notice that another thought similar to it comes along and joins up with it. Then, if you think about that thought a little while longer, another and then another good-feeling thought will join those. This is called momentum. This is actually forming a brand-spanking new positive thought pattern!!! Yay, you!

You’ve already practiced the crappy, negative thoughts patterns—you’ve got those down pat. And, look at what you’ve been experiencing, proving it.

Now, it’s time to overlay those negative thought patterns with better-feeling positive thought patterns, so the universe has something new to do. Match your new and improved thoughts and feelings.

You don’t have to get rid of those old, negative thoughts—you just have to ignore them for long enough that they old and tired and start leaving you alone!!

Let them know you’ve found a new mind-playmate—awesome new positive thoughts that feel freaking great! Sure it takes time. Sometimes it even feels like you’re losing ground. But, every little time you purposely look for something to enjoy, or something that feels good—you are making headway into a new set of vibrations that the universe is working it’s magic matching.

How fast will you see results? That depends on how often you can feel good with good-feeling thoughts. The more you think better-feeling thoughts, the faster the universe can match up the good stuff. If you’re only feeling better ten percent of the day—you’re going to get slow results. On the other hand, if you’re really serious about feeling good and every time you catch yourself wallowing in crappy thoughts—you’ll know this by how crappy you feel—and you decide to ignore the crap and go with the golden thoughts—you’re going to skyrocket your improved life!

Here’s the secret to getting super-fast improvement—are you ready for this??? Start looking for things to appreciate! Yep, looking for things to be grateful for is the absolute, no-holds-barred, sure-fire way to see rapid improvement in your life!!

You know how to start doing this? Wake up in the morning with anticipation that something great is going to happen—TODAY!!!!

When you wake up in the morning, start your gift of a day by saying, “I’m going to look for things that feel good today. No matter where I go, what I do or who I’m doing it with—I’m determined to find things to appreciate. I’m anticipating a great day and I’m going to really look for all the little and big ways the universe is going to match up all this cool stuff!”

Now, that’s a great morning routine!

I promise, it will definitely make a difference—and you’ll be amazed at all the cool stuff you’ve been missing out on when you were believing life was crappy.

Give the universe a chance to prove to you that life is great!! Life can really be great—if you’re willing to appreciate what you already have, look for things to be grateful for and anticipate great stuff arriving!

All is Well…Really!

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Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

“What can I do now?”

  1. Decide to look for things that feel good—every day, every moment.
  2. Wake up in anticipation of something great. This sets up your day to feel better right off the bat.
  3. Keep a log of all the little and big stuff that proves the universe is working on your behalf by matching what you’re looking for. It feels-ya!
  4. Email or call me for a complimentary discovery session—today! I’ll set aside time to talk to you for about 30 minutes to help you see how life could be awesome. We’ll also see if we’re a good coaching match, if you want to work with me! (903)227-0273