Stress Relief 101

“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” ~William James

We tend to think of stress as coming from outside sources. You may recognize some of the following statements about stress.

This situation with him stresses me out!

I’m going through a stressful week at work.

I’m so stressed out over finances.

Driving in traffic stresses me to rage!

You get the idea.

Pure and simple, stress is resistance–resistance against something we don’t like or something we may not want to do, but feel obligated or responsible to fulfill. Resistance against someone who we don’t agree with or don’t like to be around. Stress doesn’t feel good.

In this universe governed by the Law of Attraction where–that which is like unto itself, is drawn–like simply attracts like. When laws are involved, there is no other option. The Law states that like attracts like. The universe is playing a matching game where the rule demands when a vibration is given off, it must, by law, find something that essentially matches the same vibration.

We know that everything is energy–thank you, Albert–and as such, our every thought is energy. We, also, know that energy is in constant motion and gives off vibrations. So, our thoughts are constantly giving off vibrations of different frequencies.

If the universe, by law, is matching each vibration of thought, and if we are thinking we are under stress, doesn’t it stand to reason we have attracted whatever stressors we believe we are suffering, by our own thoughts??

So, if we have attracted the stress by our thoughts, can’t we simply change our thoughts to a different vibrational frequency to gain some relief? I’m so glad you asked! Yes, we can!!

Because we attracted stress by our thoughts, we absolutely can change our thoughts to change our attraction to stressors. We have the power within our thoughts to attract a calm and peaceable life! Ease and flow can be the dominant experience with the right kind of thoughts–thoughts that actually feel good.

Stress is a resistance to something or someone unwanted. Resistant thoughts activate more thoughts of resistance, which attract more resistance. We are now completely stressed out!!

Instead, why not look for positive aspects in an unwanted situation? Remember the saying about everything having a silver lining? Find something, some aspect, to appreciate as you are facing something unwanted, rather than being in resistance. Every time we look for something to appreciate, we are activating our vibrational attraction of more to appreciate!

Every situation is either fulfilling a desire or clarifying a desire. In other words, when we are experiencing something we attracted–because we attract everything that comes to us–it is either fulfilling one of our desires or it is giving us time to clarify the details of a desired improvement.

While we are facing some situation that we see could turn into a stress for us, why not take the opportunity to change our thoughts and find something to appreciate. Even if it’s simply to appreciate the opportunity to decide more clearly what we really do want.

Appreciate that this person has given you the opportunity to clarify an improved vision of your relationships. Appreciate the fact that you have work and want to be successful. Appreciate a characteristic or quality that the person exemplifies–even if it’s that they have nice hair! Appreciate that you have a vehicle and feel yourself gliding on a magic carpet of ease and flow through traffic.

And maybe, just maybe, you may have to say, NO. No, I will not help with this project. No, I will not help you move this weekend. No, son/daughter we are not joining another athletic team that takes away from our family time. No, to the busyness. No, to the hurrying. Just say NO!

We are not here to please others. We are not here to make sure everyone else is happy at the expense of our sanity and well-being. We must stop being people-pleasers! We can never do enough for others to please them all the time. And, there are just too many moving parts to please or control! Resisting our well-being by trying to please everyone else is attracting way to much stress. The more people-pleasing you perform, the more reasons you’ll attract unnecessary stress.

But, we have the power to say no to others, and yes to ourselves, our peace of mind and well-being. Yes to our freedom of choice! Yes to new thought patterns that bring relief.

Yes, this change of attitude and thought patterns take time and practice, but the effort is so worth…YOU!

All is Well!

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~ Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach



The B’s of Dream Building (Part 4 of 4)

In this final Part 4 in the Series of The B’s of Dream Building (Blueprinting, Bridging and Building) we will culminate all that we’ve learned into “Becoming” the person living the life we love!  This is where you harvest your dream!  This is the most exciting and exhilarating phase of your Dream Building!  Your Becoming is when you begin living the life you love and experiencing the transformative qualities you’ve worked so hard to assimilate into your new life.  You have attained multiple goals towards living your dream and aspects of your dream life has manifest into your reality.

You may become a totally different person than you were just 12 weeks ago prior to your Dream Builder coaching program.  You may hardly recognize yourself and this should be a wonderful surprise.  You are becoming a person who has allowed yourself to dream, design and test your dream.  Just learning to navigate the gap between where you used to be and where you are today has been quite the accomplishment!  You have learned to build your dream and now you are harvesting your dream!  Becoming is life’s journey so there will always be more unfoldment as you allow it to work its magic.

As your dream manifests into your reality gaining your freedom, the essence of life within you desires to express an ever fuller, upward spiral of life and you will have increased urgings to continue to grow and transform your becoming.  Your dreams may continue to grow and expand.

You may see new aspects to your dream life that you want to implement.  New longings for an even greater life experience may tug on your heart strings.  Others witnessing your transformation may inquire as to how they can experience improvement in their current existence.  They may want the hope of a greater, fuller expression of their life’s purpose.

This is your opportunity to share your source for transformation.  You have the opportunity to refer those who inquire for coaching so they, too, can begin healing their world!  This is the purpose for all of us as we begin to heal our world.  Share the blessings with the observers of your life transformation!

This may, also, be a great time to repeat the Dream Building program one more time, because you will be a different person at an advanced stage of your dream life.  The program will solidify in your soul as you practice the principles over and over—Blueprinting + Bridging + Building = Becoming!

This would be an awesome time for you to invite a group of friends and family that would experience the Dream Building program together as a small group with you.  This way your weekly coaching calls would only be your private group you’ve invited to join.

If you are considering the Dream Building coaching experience, please contact me.  I schedule a limited number of complimentary Strategy Sessions each week.  This is a 30-minute call valued at $250 which will discover your dream and determine if we are a good coach/client fit.

Dream – Grow – Live!

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All is Well!!

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~Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

The B’s of Dream Building (Part 3 of 4)

There are 3 B’s to Dream Building.  The first is Blueprinting, the second is Bridging and the third is Building.  All these lead up to Becoming the person who is living the life they love.

In this Part 3 in the Series of The B’s of Dream Building we will cover “Building”.   Building your dream is where the rubber meets the road.  This is where the action resides.  This is where you will really begin to see transformation in your life as you practice the principles presented in the Dream Building program.   Those baby steps will finally start paying off great dividends.

In the Building phase of the Dream Building program you will learn to listen to your still small voice that gives you creative ideas, makes gentle course corrections and steer s you into the life you love.  This is where you will learn to quiet your mind and body to be able to hear that still small voice.  We live such busy, hectic lives that we refuse to slow down enough to spend quiet time within ourselves.  This chaos can be very detrimental to your well-being and deter growth towards your goals.

Sometimes you will be moving between the Bridging and Building phases as necessary.  Bridging and Building have a very close working relationship.  As you begin building you may need to refer back to mindset training and refresh your practice.  Developing faith in yourself and your dream, developing self-confidence and a healthy self-image will open new realms of possibility to build your new life upon.

During the Building phase you will learn how to harness your power of believing.  You may not believe it right now, but you have infinite power to believe in yourself and your dream life!  You will learn how to harness your believing powers.  Faith is the key to persistence.  Your power of believing will carry you through, over, under or around those obstacles or struggles that will appear in your pathway.  They will come, so you will learn tools to deal with them and use them for steps to greater things.

The last phase of Building is learning to turn your failures into stepping stones.  Those events that you have deemed as failures will now be shown to be stepping stones to your bright future.  You will become like Thomas Edison who chose to view his multiple thousands of failures to create the electric light bulb as feedback!  He learned thousands of way NOT to build a light bulb and used this feedback to finally succeed in his goal.  This feedback became his stepping stones to success.  You, too, will learn how to use your failures/feedback into stepping stones/action steps to living the life you love!

In the final Part 4 of this series we will discuss the next phase of Dream Building which culminates all the B’s into “Becoming”.

Dream – Grow—Live!

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All is Well!!

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~Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

The B’s of Dream Building (Part 2 of 4)

There are 3 B’s to Dream Building.  The first is Blueprinting, the second is Bridging and the third is Building.  All these lead up to Becoming the person who is living the life they love.

In this Part 2 in the Series of The B’s of Dream Building we will cover “Bridging”.  This is a critical phase of Dream Building, because this is where you prepare to navigate the gap between where you are now and where you see yourself living the life you love.  That gap can be scary and difficult to navigate without assistance.  This is where support coaching is vital.  You can see that IF you could bridge the gap between where you are and the life you love and was easy to accomplish, you would have done so already.  This is not to diminish your ability, but it is meant as an encouragement to seek help and ask for coaching so that your results are accomplished more rapidly.

In Bridging the gap, you will learn to befriend your fear.  This may sound absurd, but we know that fear will always be a part of our lives, so it is imperative that we learn how to make friends with our fear.  Please know that fear is in your life for your protection, so it is doing a good job by creating fear in you so that you stay safe and don’t seek out dangerous risks.  On the other hand, fear can cause you to freeze up and never take action to make the necessary changes to live the life you love.  You will be taught techniques to befriend your fear and actually use it for thrusters to catapult you forward into transformation!

The next phase of Bridging is welcoming the greater flow of abundance.  You will receive techniques and tools to change your mindset.  Our beliefs about abundance may be stuck in old paradigms (beliefs) downloaded from others that influenced our mindset during childhood.  These are the beliefs like, “Money doesn’t grow on trees”, “You have to work hard for money”, “You have to have money to make money” or “Love is illusive and no one ever lives happily ever after”, “You can’t do that, you can’t do anything right”, “________ disease runs in our family so I have that to look forward to in my old age”, or “Just grow up and get real—dreams don’t come true.”

Abundance is a flow of energy and you will learn how to step into that flow with ease.  You will be amazed at the transformation of your mindset around abundance when we complete this phase!

Along with transforming your mindset around abundance and prosperity in every area of your life, you will also learn a new skillset to evolve your perceptions.  We make all of our decisions through our perceptions—the way we judge every event and circumstance.   Either we look at the facts of circumstances and get depressed, fearful or angry, or, we look at circumstances and see the opportunity hidden in the struggle.  Which of these two perceptions would most benefit you in living the life you love?

In Part 3 of this series we will discuss the next phase of Dream Building which is “Building”.

Dream – Grow—Live!

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All is Well!!

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~Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

The B’s of Dream Building (Part 1 of 4)

There are 3 B’s to Dream Building.  The first is Blueprinting, the second is Bridging and the third is Building.  All these culminate into Becoming the person who is living the life they love.

In this Part 1 in the Series of The B’s of Dream Building we will cover “Blueprinting”.  We will discover your dream.  We will dig deep inside your heart and find that great purpose of your life.  We will design and test your dream to see if it matches your life’s purpose.  Finally, we will see how to increase your dream.

What is Blueprinting?  When you start noticing your feelings of discontent in the life you’re now living and your heart longs for a better life, you begin your blueprinting stage of Dream Building.  Most of us know what we don’t want, but how many ever stop and really think about what we do want?

In this stage of Dream Building you open your thoughts to what you would absolutely love to do, be or have.  You will begin thinking about what things light you up; ignite an excitement in your soul.  You will get really excited just talking about doing that particular thing in life.  Maybe you’ve experienced it in the past and let the enthusiasm die, because you listened to the world that told you to stop dreaming and get real.  Or, maybe it’s something you’ve never done before, but it’s something you’ve always dreamed about doing.

If you listened to those in your past that told you to stop day dreaming, get an education, get a job and work hard the rest of your life, you may have felt you had to squash your dream to live responsibly.

Maybe you are living some of your dream life, but now you want an even better life.  If there is any discontent of where you are now and have that deep longing of wanting something more, you are ready to Blueprint your dream!

Imagine that you want to build your dream home.  You don’t go to the architect and tell him to design your dream home.  He doesn’t know what that looks like.  You would actually tell him exactly how you want the house to look; all the features and amenities; along with the number of bedrooms, baths, kitchen design, your living space and garages.  He wants to know the exact dimensions of each room, how many windows, the interior finishes, the exterior finishes and roof.  You may dream of your house being in a particular part of the country, the lay of the land or the specific sub-division where it will be built.  With these details laid before him, the architect has something to work with when he creates the drawings for your dream home.  You may decide to make some changes along the way and then you will be issued the blueprints.  These will tell the builder how and where to build your new home.

Blueprinting is what we do as we ask you to dream of the life you love.  You will create a picture of your new life in very specific detail.  You will realize how awesome it feels to live this new dream in everyday life.

Once you have your dream in mind, then we will ask you to design and test your dream.  If you can see yourself living this dream life you are in the design stage.  Once this is accomplished, we will ask you to test it against the prescribed test questions that all need a resounding “yes” for their answers.   If you have even one of the test questions answered as a “maybe” or a “no”, then you will need to tweak your dream to get it to perfectly fit your life’s purpose.

After you have discovered your dream, designed and tested your dream, it’s time to look at it with the eyes of increasing your dream.  Once you read over and study your dream, you may see that you missed some aspects of the dream initially that really would be important to add now.  This is where you will add those details that would complete this phase of your Dream Building.

In Part 2 of this series we will discuss the next phase of Dream Building which is “Bridging”.

Dream – Grow – Live!

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~Mary Ann Pack

YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

Is There Benefit in Self-Criticism?

“You do not need to dig a hole for you by beating yourself over the head over what’s wrong in order to give birth to what’s right.” ~Abraham-Hicks

How many times do we beat ourselves up and criticize ourselves?  How many times do we dig a hole and throw ourselves in because we punish ourselves for something we did or didn’t do to suit ourselves or others?

How long will we keep choosing to suffer under our own hand because we’ve judged something wrong or bad?

Even if we don’t physically beat ourselves, our self-talk is suffering enough!  Why do we judge ourselves so harshly?  Does it maybe come down to the belief that we’re just not good enough?

Brow-beating ourselves with critical self-talk will never bring about the good that we desire.  Punishment of self does not bring good into our lives.  We cannot get to a better life by punishing ourselves.

Maybe it’s time to let go of our perceived right and wrong actions; good and bad; righteous and evil.  Yes, we live in a physical world of contrasts–that’s how we know what we want and what we don’t want.  Contrast bring clarity.  When you see something or experience something that does not make you feel good, you know that is something you do not want.  In contrast to that, you see something or experience something that does make you feel really good–so you immediately know that is what you do want.

Our emotions are simply letting us know in the moment we experience them, if we are in alignment (agreement) or not with what our Inner Being (soul, spirit, inner Source, the eternally expanding part of us) is thinking about the same subject.  If we feel good about what we are thinking, we are in alignment with what our Inner Being knows to be true about us.  If we feel bad about what we are thinking, we are not in alignment or in disagreement with what our Inner Being knows about us.

These feelings/emotions let us easily know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, where we stand in our process of aligning with who we really are (our Inner Being).  Simply paying attention to the way we feel will make life more delightful if we are willing, when we feel a negative emotion, to distract our thoughts from those thoughts and focus our thoughts on more pleasing thoughts that bring relief and a good feeling.

There is no need to suffer endlessly with the feeling of not being enough or that everything you do is wrong.  When you experience these kinds of feelings, you are simply disagreeing with who your Inner Being knows you to be.  You are more than likely trying too hard to please someone else or you have placed entirely too much emphasis on getting the approval of others, as if their opinions matter more than yours.

We can never please people all of the time.  We will never be enough for their lack of alignment with their Inner Being.  That’s not our job.  That is the job of Source Energy.  When we try to please someone else over pleasing ourselves, we try to take on the job of Source.  That is an impossible task!  Their alignment and good-feelings are their job.  Each person must do their own vibrational work of alignment with the Source within to be happy and feel good.

We came into this time-space reality from the non-physical (the eternal us) knowing exactly who we really are–powerful creators of our eternal expansion.  We knew we were absolutely unconditional love, pure, positive energy that creates worlds.  We came here to experience the contrast that the physical life offers.  We came to see what we don’t like and what we do like.  This built-in preference mechanism creates rockets of desire shooting into our vibrational escrow account and is held there for us as we find our path of vibrationally matching all that we desire.  When we are happy and feeling good we are in the Vortex and emanating a vibrational matching signal to all that we desire.  This is when we feel really good.

When we feel bad or experience a negative emotion, it simply indicates a misalignment with who we really are–that loving, pure, positive energy of expansion.  Negative emotions do not signal that we are wrong or bad!  Feelings are an indicator of our vibrational energy–not a judgment of who we are permanently!  Feelings change with our thoughts.  When we feel bad we are simply in resistance to all that our Inner Being knows us to be, because our Inner Being has already expanded into all that we desire.  We just need to keep up with all that our Inner Being has already become.  And, we do this by thinking thoughts of pleasure and feeling good.

But, it’s our choice.  Either we can continue to suffer the effects of misalignment or we can choose to think thoughts that match what our Inner Being already knows about us.  You can easily tell what you are thinking, by how you feel.  If you feel good, you know you are in alignment.  If you feel bad, you know you are out of alignment.  It’s just that simple.

So, how do we pick better-feeling thoughts?

How do we get out of this pattern of beating up on ourselves?

Beating up on ourselves never brings about any benefit.  We cannot beat ourselves up hard enough or long enough to get to what’s right for us, as individuals.  We cannot focus on all that is wrong in our lives and expect to see anything that is going right in our lives.  We can’t get to the solution from focusing on problems–or our perceived problems.  They are two different vibrational levels.

Here are a few statements that may help bring you some relief:

I don’t always get stuff wrong.

Sometimes I get stuff right.  Sometimes I’m really proud of myself and it makes me feel pretty darn good.

I only feel like I’m not doing something right when they show their disapproval of me.  When I notice they disapprove it makes me feel so bad.  And, I really want to feel good.

Why should their opinion matter more than my own opinion?  Shouldn’t I have more say about how I feel and that my opinion matters the most?

I really like it when I think I’ve done something I’m proud of.

I used to feel like I did a lot of things right.  I wonder if it’s possible for me to feel that way again?

I know I do things well.  Sometimes I can do things better than others.  And, that feels really good.

I need to stop letting someone else’s opinion or judgment cloud my good feeling when I know I’ve done a job well.

I do have some really positive characteristics.  I can think of these positive aspects about me and my life so far….. (begin to list all the positive aspects and characteristics that you appreciate about you where you are right now).

It would be excellent if you would begin to write in a Journal of Positive Aspects all the good-feeling things that you can think of every day.  Even if you can only think of two or three things that are super simple–like, I love my cat, I really like a warm shower in the morning, I enjoy my morning coffee, etc.  Eventually, you will begin to think of more and more things you love about your life.  That’s the momentum of positive thoughts you want to accomplish so you vibrationally match all that you desire.

The more you focus on positive aspects of your life and what makes you feel good, the more you are aligning with what your Inner Being already knows about you.  When you look for anything long enough, you will eventually start finding it–whether negative or positive.  Your world will begin to shift in subtle, and not so subtle, ways to show you exactly what you are looking for.

So, what are you looking for?

Are you looking for proof that you can’t do anything right?  Or, are you looking for proof that you are a wonderful, magnificent, intelligent, creative, loving being?  Proof will show up for you in either case.  It’s up to you to choose where you’re going to look.

Stop beating up on yourself.  It will never benefit you or anyone around you.  Start praising yourself.  Start looking for proof that you are the pure, positive energy your Inner Being already has become.  Catch up with who you really are and allow more good things and good feelings into your experience!

All is well!

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~Mary Ann Pack, YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

PS:  I would love to help you remember who you really are!  If you would like to coach with me, I would love to lock arms with you on your path to an expanded life!!  Email me at or call my direct number (903)227-0273 (please leave a message if I’m unable to answer right away as I may be in a coaching session).

PPS:  I encourage you to learn from my mentor, Abraham-Hicks.  You can also find many videos on YouTube by searching Abraham-Hicks.












2016 New Year’s Resolution of Happiness!

It’s New Year’s Eve!

Looking back over 2015, I can see some major improvements in my life.  I believe I have grown and transformed into more of the person I know I am.  Actually, I believe I’ve simply uncovered and remembered the who-I-really-am part of me—the eternal, pure, positive being.  I’m learning to let go of stuff and just be.

I’m learning that I’m not here to control others and circumstances.  That I attract everything I experience.  If I run into grumpy people, it’s only because I have attracted them.  If I run into delightful folks, it’s because I’ve attracted them.  Every event and experience is from my point of attraction.  No one is doing anything to me.  Everything I experience I created.  Knowing this takes the blame, guilt and victimization out of the equation.  It places everything in my lap of responsibility.

This has actually been great news for me, because my life experience is up to me—and me alone!  It doesn’t matter what’s going on around me, I can choose to still be happy.  I can do this by utilizing my built-in Emotional Guidance System.  This amazing system indicates exactly where my point of attraction is positioning my experiences.  And, it’s easy to use.  It’s all about my feelings.  And, guess what?  We all have this amazing guidance system!

If we can start paying attention to how we feel, we will be able to utilize the system with ease.  Take an assessment of your feelings right now.  Are you feeling good or bad?  Are you full of tension and stress?  Are you feeling really good and happy?  These feelings are your indicators of what kind of attractions you will experience—unless you choose to change those feelings by changing your thoughts.

Of course, there is contrast in life—things we don’t want to see and things we do want to see.  That contrast helps us decide what we want.  When we see something we don’t want, it lets us know what we do want.  When we decided to come into this time-space reality from the non-physical, we knew the contrast would help us decide what we want and how we want to expand.

The expanding part happens every moment of every day.  The asking part of what we want is very easy.  It happens naturally, even without focusing upon it.  Every time we see something we want we shoot rockets of desire into our vibrational escrow account where Source immediately sets in motion the coordinating of cooperative components and prepares our path to receiving it. 

Our only real work is to prepare an environment within our emotions to match what we want.  This emotional vibrational match will indicate to the universe that we are ready to receive what we’ve put into our vibrational escrow account.  We always want something because we believe we will feel better by having it.  So, the better we feel, the more we match everything we want!  How do we do this?  We must learn to think like Source which creates a great feeling!  Source knows us to be unlimited, eternal, creative, pure, positive energy.  Abundance is universal.  When we ask, it is given!  Not sometimes—all the time.  Don’t blame God/Source–as if it’s not his will–or fate because you didn’t get what you wanted.  It’s up to us to match its vibration and allow it into our experience.

How do we know when we are thinking like Source so we can receive all the wonderful things we have put into our vibrational escrow account?

By our feelings!!!  We have the Emotional Guidance System—remember?!  Just by paying attention to how we feel will indicate our thoughts and whether they are a match to what Source is thinking on the same subject.  Remember, each subject is really two subjects: the wanted and the lack of the wanted.

Source never, ever, thinks in terms of lack.  We get to decide if our thoughts are that of Source—thoughts of abundance and appreciation—or thoughts of lack.  Our feelings indicate what we are thinking.  If we are feeling bad, we are not thinking from Source’s point of view—this feels bad because we are not in alignment with Source or what we want.  If we are feeling good, we are thinking in alignment with Source and in harmony with all that we want.

See how easy it is to determine what we are thinking?  We don’t have to monitor every thought.  That would be impossible.  We can, however, monitor the way we feel, right now, right now, right now!

Everything we are thinking about is happening right now.  Whether we’re thinking about the past, present or future, we are thinking about it right now.  It is active in our vibration right now.  And, right now is our point of attraction!

Now, our job is to choose better-feeling thoughts if we are feeling bad.  We are to reach for better-feeling thoughts that bring relief.  Any ease in feelings will bring us closer to all that we want.  No one is here to do this vibrational work for us.  No one is here to bring us happiness or act the way we want them to.  How people act is not our job to control.  It’s really none of our business.  And, we are not here to please other people, either!  That is taking on the role of Source.  We can never fully please anyone.  There will always be something we’re not doing right—for them.  So let that go.  Let Source be their all-in-all.

Our job is to please ourselves—not in an egotistical way—but in an alignment with Source way.  When we are in alignment with the thoughts of Source, we could never do anything that would hurt or harm another—unlike being selfishly egotistical.  Let’s make our resolution this New Year of 2016 to learn to align our thoughts with Source.  Let’s determine to feel better by reaching for better-feeling thoughts of relief.  Let’s begin to learn the art of allowing and put ourselves in the mode of receiving all that we want.

We’ll never get it done and we can never get it wrong.  We cannot reach a place of no return.  Any situation or emotion can be turned around to align with our Inner Being of Source.  We can never get so far off our path, that we cannot return to alignment by changing our perspective.

We need to look for positive aspects of each situation.  Whatever is going on around us, let’s look for positive things we can appreciate.  Sometimes it takes a while to start easily noticing things we appreciate, but they are there.  (I’m preaching to the choir here!)  It takes some work to change our perspective if we’ve practiced finding fault, placing blame or having a victim mentality.  Let’s determine to see things we want.  Let’s rewrite our sad stories into ones of delight and appreciation.

Let’s stop observing what is and look for what can be!  If we focus only on what is, what is will keep repeating over and over in our lives.  Different places, different faces.  We will only keep what is activated in our emotional vibration and that is out of alignment with our Source within.  Everything is happening now—remember?  Let’s look for ways to appreciate aspects of what is and move on to appreciation instead of whining and complaining.

I am totally looking forward to 2016!  With the determination of making how I feel the most important goal in my life, I know that I want to feel good.  I can only accomplish feeling good by creating a vibrational environment of appreciation, love, happiness, fun, excitement, vibrancy, vitality, wellness, etc.  I’m determined to look for things I want to see and make appreciation my priority.  It is my job to choose good-feeling thoughts which produce a good-feeling life experience.  That’s my resolution for 2016!

If you must have a New Year’s Resolution—make your happiness your resolution.  Make feeling good your top priority.  Change your perspectives enough to reach for better-feeling thoughts each and every time you start to notice your Emotional Guidance System indicating a misalignment with your Source Energy within.  Decide to only think on good things that make you feel good.  Find positive aspects of what’s going right in your life.  Write that sh*t down!  Every day!  There is something profound in writing down things you appreciate, are grateful for or things you want—whether it’s resources, relationships, money, time or that perfect job.  It literally changes our brain function.

I love to use the computer to type most of my writing, but I still use a pen and spiral-bound book to physically write in my journals.  There’s something so special about looking back over the journals and reading what I’ve written to see where I’ve grown.  If I’m feeling bad and can’t think of anything good to think about, I read my journals.  It refreshes my memory of all the good and encourages my faith that all is really well!

Go purchase a journal and a special pen.  I name my journals, My Journal of Positive Aspects and My Gratitude Journal.  I have a special pen with purple ink—my favorite color—and named it My Magical Purple Pen of Increase.  Make your writing special.  Try it—you’ll like it!

Meditate and quiet your mind so you can be open to hearing the still small voice of inspiration from your Inner Source.  When inspiration comes, take the action.  No amount of action thrown at what you want will bring it to you—it will only push it further out of your reach.  Action comes only after you have done the vibrational work to align with your Source within!  Action without alignment is exhausting and futile.

Let’s make 2016 a year of happiness.  If you’re into numerology, 2016 is the year of 9—all the digits add up to 9.  It places energy on promoting completion.  Suggesting it’s time to wrap things up and reach a conclusion.  A time to consider what’s not been working for you and begin doing things differently with a new perspective on life.  Enjoy the energy of 2016 with its focus on promoting a positive perspective on life that all is well.  By reaching for better-feeling thoughts and recognizing what would work better for you, determine what you really want from the contrast life is showing you.

Have fun with this!  It’s really exciting to realize empowerment of your life experience.  It’s time to let go of blame, shame, guilt, playing the victim and take responsibility for your own feelings.  It’s time to pull up our big-person panties and smile with their perfect fit!

Laugh, love unconditionally, have fun, explore new things, feel good!  Well-Being is our natural state.  Try it on this year—it feels really good!

All is well–living happily ever after!

If you enjoyed this blog post, please share it with others.  I’d love to hear about your New Year’s Resolution of Happiness!  Please feel free to comment and like.  Thanks in advance!

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Mary Ann Pack, YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

PS:  If you have determined to make feeling good your life’s goal and you’d like help, please email me and I’d be overjoyed to give you a complimentary consultation.  I can help you with your life and wellness goals.  My mission is to help you feel good for the rest of your life!  Personal, one-on-one coaching is a great way to invest in your future HAPPY YOU!

PPS:  If you like what you’re reading and it resonates with your soul, you can find more teachings from my mentor, Abraham-Hicks.

Relax, All is Well…Really!

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Sitting on the front porch this morning watching the sunrise, I was going over in my mind all that I had to get done.  In October we moved from our tiny house to my farm.  We are freshening the colors in the core of the house, so painting has been a huge part of our lives over the last week or so.  My new grandbaby is due today!  Every year we put on a Gumbo Day for friends and family the Sunday between Christmas and New Year’s, besides keeping my clients’ work up-to-date.  And, today is December 18th, so you understand my dilemma.

I noticed that I was getting tense in my body and a little knot was developing in the pit of my stomach.  I was starting to feel overwhelmed with all that I needed to accomplish in the next few days.

But, I have been practicing listening to my Emotional Guidance System—my feelings—for several months and my response to stress and overwhelment is shifting.  When I get in a position of stress or feel I have more than I can do, or question if I’m doing the right things, I allow myself a moment to notice how I feel.  I take an assessment of my body and emotions.  If I notice tension anywhere or feel uncomfortable in any way, I know I’m not thinking the same thoughts that Source is thinking as we consider the same subject.

Every subject is really two subjects:  the wanting of a thing and the lack of the wanted thing.

Source never thinks in terms of lack.  So when we approach a subject with lack in our thoughts we are not aligned with what Source is thinking.  There is no lack of anything—whether things, resources, relationships, money, or time.  Source’s thoughts are always loving and knows that we are pure, positive light—an extension of Source Itself.  Source will never lower to our negative thought levels.  Source is always calling us up higher to expansion.  Source is always thinking of the unlimited positive aspects of…well, everything! 

When we get tension in our body, feel stressed out and overwhelmed, because we think we don’t have enough time to get everything done, we are thinking in contrast to what Source is thinking on the same subject.  This is the indicator of misalignment with who we really are.  When we are misaligned with our Inner Being—the who-we-really-are part of us, the eternal part of us—we experience negative emotions and can feel really bad.  Those bad feelings are just an indicator that we need to change our perspective and reach for better-feeling thoughts about the subject under consideration so we match what Source is thinking about us.

I was in resistance to the Stream of Life and paddling my canoe upstream as hard as I could!  My efforts were exhausting.

So, this morning as I noticed I was misaligned with who I really am, I reached for a better-feeling thought.  The very first thought that came to mind as my intention was to get to a better-feeling place was from my mentor, Abraham-Hicks, “I’m in the right place, at the right time, doing the right things and I’m loving my exposure to this life and what it provides for me!” 

I simply relaxed!  The stressful feelings washed away in the beauty of those words.  I immediately was back in alignment with the greater part of who I am.  I was aligned with the thoughts of Source and all tension and bad feelings shifted to calm and peace of mind.  My body melted into my rocker.

I was so appreciative of the shift that happened in mere seconds!

It didn’t take me all day to let what I had to do fester and make me feel bad, until I couldn’t stand it anymore and finally decided to stop and change my perspective.  I nipped it in the bud—so to speak!

Feeling good has become my top priority!  Obviously, we didn’t come into this physical life with the intension of seeking out every miserable thing we could experience and squander the Life-Force within us.  We came into this time-space reality with the intension of expanding who we are and create a life of joy and appreciation.  Those emotions feel really good, so that’s what I want to experience.

When I was experiencing those bodily responses because of my negative feelings, I knew I didn’t want to stay there.  It just doesn’t feel good!  Making feeling-good my top priority has taken work on my part.  It takes some time to overlay a new positive perspective when I’ve practiced negative thought patterns for so long.  But, with determination and focus and becoming aware of how I’m feeling throughout the day, I can recognize when it’s time to reach for better-feeling thoughts—to redirect from the negative to the positive—to allow myself alignment from my misalignment with Source.

We will never have all the answers, because there are too many subjects to consider in the Universe.  We will never get it done and can never get it wrong!  We are eternal beings—we cannot get IT done.  There really is nothing to get done.  There is no course that cannot be redirected simply with a change of perspective.  By looking for positive aspects of each subject we consider, we get closer and closer to everything we want.

This is a vibrational universe.  Everything is energy and energy is in constant motion emitting vibrational frequencies.  Our work is to align vibrationally with our desires.  The universe feels our vibrations and simply matches those with the essence of the same vibrations.  If you feel good, the universe will send a matching essence of more reasons to feel good.  The converse is also true.  If you feel bad, the universe will send a matching essence of more reasons to feel bad.

Our job is to relax with good-feeling thoughts and let go of our need for control.  We must allow the release of resistance of paddling upstream.  What we want is not upstream—it’s all downstream!  Our natural state of being is to float downstream, allowing the Stream of Life current to carry us towards everything we want!

Life is not a battle.  Life is not a struggle.  Life is ONLY a battle and struggle when we throw all kinds of actions at what we want.  No amount of action will compensate for not addressing our vibrational work of alignment with Source.  If we don’t take the time to learn how to use our mental focus to reach for better-feeling thoughts, we will continue to struggle against the current.  We’ll feel bad and we will live with struggle.

Our job is to do the vibrational work FIRST!  Forget the actions.  Inspired ideas to act will come AFTER we’ve aligned with our Inner Being of Source.  Once we get an inspired idea to take action, the action will help build momentum and speed up what we want coming to us.  If we continue to throw action after action at something we want, ignoring our vibrational feelings, we will simply keep pushing away the very thing we desire.  Pushing against, forcing action, noticing the lack of what we want all create resistance and more lack will show up.

So, relax!  Take a breath and repeat the affirmation.  “I’m in the right place, at the right time, doing the right things and I’m loving my exposure to this life and what it provides for me!”

Know that Source has your back.  Know that Source is waiting to give you everything you desire when you come into alignment with who you really are—an unlimited, eternal being of pure, positive light.  There is no lack.  You have all the time you need.  There’s nothing really serious going on here.

We’re here for a great ride of joy, appreciation and expansion!

When you notice you are feeling tension and overwhelmed, take a moment to calm yourself.  Reach for better-feeling thoughts that bring you relief.  Soothe yourself with positive aspects of whatever you are considering.  Better-feeling thoughts bring relief and rest assured that you are shifting your point of attraction.  Now you are heading in the direction of everything you desire by letting go of the oars and allowing yourself to float downstream in the Stream of Life!

All is Well!


Mary Ann Pack, YOUR Life & Wellness Coach

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PS  If you would like to feel better, emotionally and physically, please contact me for a complimentary consultation.  Email me at  I will help you remember your natural state of Well-Being!

PPS  By the time you read this post all this will be history.  But, there was a lesson of expansion in my experience that I wanted to share with you.  I’ll let you know how everything turned out!

UPDATE:  It’s New Year’s Eve and the grandbaby graced us with her presence at 5:17 p.m. on the 18th, weighing in at 7 pounds 10 ounces and 20 inches long–her name is Lilly Ann!  She is wonderful!  Our painting got finished and our home looks so pretty and inviting.  Gumbo Day was a success even though our guests arrived through thunderstorms!  So much fun and excitement!!

How ‘Let Go and Let God’ Works!

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We’ve all heard the saying, Let Go and Let God.

Why do people really think this works?

Is this just an excuse people give when they’ve worked so hard for something and when it doesn’t show up, they just give up and say they’re going to let it go and see if God will take care of it?

Or is there something real to the saying?

Let’s look at what happens when we actually do let go of something and relax, just wait patiently for God Source to work it all out.

When we look around us at all the contrast to choose from on various subjects, we make our preferences of what we don’t what and what we do want.  These preferences are what we desire and these are put into our vortex (the vibrational reality of all that we desire).  The vortex is like a vibrational escrow account where everything we want is held until we match the vibrational essence of it and bring it into our physical reality.  We make these preferences all day, every day–whether we are aware we are doing it or not.

We make these choices of things that we want, because we believe in the having of them we will feel better.  That’s the whole point of making preferences by experiencing contrast in our world.  We want to feel better!

Once these preferences for what we want has been asked for, God Source immediately attends to acquiring it for us.  They are setting up co-operative components, rendezvous’ and gathering together all the necessary components to prepare the unfolding of our path towards it.

God Source always answers with a yes to whatever we want.  If we have been able to imagine a thing, we also have the ability to receive it.  But, why doesn’t it show up for us?

As the action-oriented beings that we are, sometimes when we make decisions to take action towards what we want, we make it harder than necessary.  We actually create a resistance against or a pushing against what we want and push it further away from us.  We prematurely take action and try to force the thing we desire to come to us.  But, this action backfires.

When we take action before we have attained a vibrational match to our desire, we are actually focusing on the lack of whatever we are desiring.  When we notice that it is lacking, we will continue to create the lack of it.

Every subject is actually two subjects:  what is wanted and the lack of what is wanted.

Instead of waiting on inspired thought as to how to proceed towards our desire, we throw all kinds of action towards it and what we want just seems to get farther and farther away from our grasp.  Frustration sets in and we feel like throwing up our hands and acknowledge that if it’s meant to be, it will come to us.

This is typically the time we say we are going to, Let go and let God.

The first thing this does is causes us to relax.  We stop pushing so hard.  This is a form of releasing resistance.  Resistance will hold what we want away from us.  Relaxing will simply allow it to flow to us as we release resistance.

Then we start thinking about the having of what we desire and we focus on the good feelings it will create in us.  We may revel in the good feelings just thinking about it.  This time of pondering is actually doing something positive in your vibrational energy.  Sitting with good-feeling thoughts will begin to snowball with momentum and more good-feeling thoughts come faster and faster.  This is the most important work we should be doing.  We must remain sitting in the vibrational essence of what we want for it to come to us!

The gem of this work is to hold a thought for as little as 17-seconds and another thought will join it. If we hold that thought for another 17-seconds, more thoughts will begin rolling in faster and faster.  This momentum of good-feeling thoughts is exactly what we want to happen, because at this moment we are in very close proximity to that wonderful vibrational reality field of our vortex.  We are now vibrating at the same frequency as the thing we want!

By simply imagining the good-feeling thoughts about what we want, we are matching our desire being held in vibrational escrow in our vortex.  When this happens the Universe begins to unfold our path more clearly to us.

With our vibration at a higher level the Universe works wonders behind the scenes and brings together cooperative components that will assist us on our path to bringing our desire into physical reality.

We may start getting excited and we get an inspired idea to go somewhere, talk to someone or take some action.  Faith in the having of what we want starts to build.  We begin trusting that things will all work out really well.

We enter the mode of receiving.  Receiving more ideas that may expand the dream.  Receiving more inspiration to take action.  Action that is now a co-operative component that will result in faster momentum.  And, it seems to make the work not nearly as difficult as previously experienced.  We may notice life seems to flow with more ease.

The next thing that may happen is that we come into a state of allowing.  All resistance around noticing the lack of what we want disappears.  We just enjoy the great feelings of simply thinking about what we want.  It feels so great to feel really good and feeling good becomes so important to us, we ignore negative influences that would crush our good-feeling thoughts.

When feeling good is more important than the having of anything, we have reached the place of allowing ourselves to receive the wanted.  No matter what anyone says or does, no matter the circumstances, no matter the situation, we determine to feel good.

Gently, bit-by-bit, we are becoming tuned in, tapped in and turned on.  We have shifted our focus from the lack of what is wanted to just feeling good.  We are now aligned with the vibrational reality of our vortex where all that we desire is held!

Now, what we want will start showing up in our reality.  The concept of let go and let God is another way of saying we are preparing our vibrational environment for allowing ourselves to receive what we want.

Life experience causes us to see contrast.  When we see the contrast we make our preferences. Those preferences are held in our vibrational escrow account.  Source immediately answers yes.  Our only work is to relax, align with the vibrational essence of all that we want.  Take action only when inspired to do so and watch our life experience expand!

Of course, if we never do the vibrational energy work, we will never receive what we want.  We will think God said no.  Or, some will say God says not now.  These are all excuses for not doing the vibrational work first!  They were not willing to take the time to quiet themselves to find the good-feeling thoughts around their desire.  They continued to notice the lack of what they wanted–only to watch it be held at bay.

They may conclude God doesn’t want them to have this thing they so want–so it must not be His will.  This can create disillusionment with God.  We were taught God wants good things for us, God is loving, God is the provider.  There are many scriptures that tell of God’s provisions, abundance and that all we should do is ask and it is given.  So, how do we justify why God is not giving us what we’ve asked for?  That scripture sure sounded like a promise.  When we don’t receive what we want and know that desire is a really good thing, we can get confused about God’s attitude towards us.  We can misunderstand, wondering why these good things are being withheld from us.

God Source always, always, always wants to give us exactly what we want.  Our work is to match the vibrational essence of it by feeling good!  God Source will never force anything into our lives.  It is our job to align with God Source to receive the good held in our vibrational escrow reality.  The fastest way to alignment is through appreciation!  Appreciation is love!  When we lovingly appreciate everything and find positive aspects in every situation or person, we are becoming a match to our God Source and our vibrational escrow account!  Let go and let God!

Are you still waiting on your desire to show up?  Does it feel as if God has told you no?  Do you feel bad when you think about it?  That bad feeling may be because you are actually thinking about the lack of it instead of the wonderful feeling of having it.  You may have set up resistance to the very thing you desire.

Sit in the feeling of alignment with it by thinking wonderful-feeling thoughts–about anything really.  You’ve already put it in your vortex.  No one can remove it.  You may need to just go general in your thoughts.  Don’t think about the desire directly if it causes you to have resistant feelings.  Only think about things that will feel really good.  Think of anything and everything that will help you feel relief and feel good!

Feeling good is the key to getting everything you want!

All is well!


Mary Ann Pack, YOUR Life & Wellness Coach


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PS:  Affirm with me:  “I am at the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing and I am loving my exposure to this life and what it provides for me.” ~Abraham-Hicks